LEARNING HOW TO RELAX

‘Miss Joanie, slow down, you’re doing too much.’

‘You need to rest. Nothing wrong with being lazy. You don’t have a job to go to anymore . ‘

‘Your friends are younger than you are and they’re getting sick. How long do you think it’ll be before you get to the point where you can’t do anything because your body had shut down? Slow it down and relax.’

‘You aren’t getting any younger . What the hell are you doing? Slow your roll, you aren’t Superwoman . ‘

These words of advice are coming from my sister in law, nephew, my landlady , who happens to be my cousin ,and my ex lead agent at Malaysia Airlines .

Now they might seem mean and heartless to some of you, but they make a lot of sense to me.

It’s something that I need to take seriously.

Tough love is always best, sorry .

I also needed to hear these words.

As some of you might or might not know , I’m 66 years old, going on 67, God willing , and since I’ve jouned the ranks of the VHR Company, (that’s Very Happily Retired , folks), I’ve been busier now than when I was at work and collecting a paycheck .

Not to mention going on my own 30 Plus Teams Tours .

If I’m not cooking, cleaning , or out running errands, I’m doing a pile of laundry, sometimes 3 times a week .

That’s right, I said three times a week .

That’s what happens when you have three retired ladies in a two family home on Long Island, New York and you don’t have a washing machine .

The laundromat is around the corner , so you pile as much as you can in a shopping cart that’s bigger than you are, and truck it down to the laundromat.

To understand the Sports Diva , you have to understand that I come from a long line of really strong men and women from the hills of North Carolina .

Like me, everyone tried to do it all and the words relax or relaxation just weren’t a part of their vocabulary .

One of my late aunts actually got a ladder from her garage and climbed up to the kitchen window because she locked herself out of her home.

Her son in law lived in the next town over but she didn’t want to bother him, or so she said.

By the way, did I mention that my late Aunt Mil was 94 when she did this?

(She lived until age 99.)

I’m at the point in my life where yes, I tend to forget, or maybe dont chose to remember ,that I can’t do the things that I could do in my 20’s , 30’s , 40’s , and even in my 50’s .

I realize that men and women in my family had all sorts of medical ailments , and that I’m blessed that the Good Lord has gotten me this far because a lot of relatives didn’t make it past 65, including my own mother and sister.

Like my landlady said, the friends and ex coworkers who are younger than me , have some kind of medical condition .

If that isn’t some kind of sign for me to relax, I don’t know what is .

I already have enough medical problems, including the mini stroke that I suffered almost 5 years ago.

I don’t need to tell you how hard it is for someone like me to hear the words, “slow down” and actually do it.

That’s not how the Sports Diva rolls .

I’m always on the go and on the move.

But as one of my Circle of Sisters said to me, ‘It’s going to be hard for you to relax, but I know you can do it.’

So what does this mean for 30 Plus Teams 30 Plus Dreams ?

Nothing really.

I’m not suspending my travel adventures or this blog , not as long as there’s places to go and sporting events to attend.

(Not to mention how long the Good Lord allows me . )

The Sports Diva is just goimg to take it easy no matter if I’m on a trip or doing everyday real life things.

There’ll still be travel quotes , pictures of my 30 Plus Teams Tour no matter where it is, and everybody’s favorite , What’s in my suitcase .

I’m just going to take it easy and and relax a little bit more , just like I should at my age .