Ok, normally I talk about how great it is to explore great places on that 30  Plus  Teams  Tour  of some city to see some sporting event, no matter what it is.

This time, though, I have to speak out on a remark made to one Jourdan  Rodrique, who just happens to be female  and a reporter covering the  Carolina  Panthers  football team . 

She asked one of the players a perfectly  honest question  about one of his teamates.

No, she didn’t  ask which Kardashian  was he dating, nor was she asking if the player is going to kneel for the National  Anthem . 


The person  who  she asked was quarterback  Cam Newton ,  who is not only one of  the  faces of the National  Football  League, but a player who a lot of  young football fans look out to.

Without getting too technical for you non sports fans, or those of you who read this blog and don’t  know that much about American  Football, what she basically  asked Cam to do was describe his teamates’ physical style of play  and running what’s  called routes or the quickest  way to score points.

You might have thought that Ms. Jourdan was at Comedy Night at the Apollo  Theater, not at the weekly Carolina Panthers media day.

For some reason, Newton thought her question  was ha ha funny, and even said so.

‘It’s  funny to hear a female talk about routes. It’s  funny.”

It’s  too bad no one else found it funny, and it’s  even SADDER that not one of her male colleagues  had the cajones enough to  come to  her defense.

Which brings me to why I care . 

I was Jourdan  Rodrique  back in the day.

I had to go into a locker room  and interview hockey players.

I can honestly  say that I didn’t  go through what she went through, even though I had three strikes against me covering hockey.

I was a female ,  I was American  in a sport dominated by  Canadians and Europeans.

And oh yeah, I was African  American .  Not too many of those in hockey.

But not ONCE were any of the players rude nor did they call me out of my name or use the N word.

One player even remarked to a teamate, “Answer her questions  because she really knows her hockey.”

We like to think we’ve  progressed when it comes to females doing any type of  work that’s  supposed to be done only by males.

Cam Newton’s  reaction to  a perfectly  football  related question  asked by a female reporter shows us that we haven’t learned a damn thing.


Now don’t  get it  twisted .

As a blogger ,  I  have  to  use Facebook ,  Twitter ,  and  Instagram  to get in touch  with  potential  followers  and  friends  and family .

I do, however ,  have a  bone to pick  with  all three of  them.

Let’s start with  Instagram .

I LOVE posting  my pictures  up on  Instagram  and seeing  friends ,  family ,  and people  that I  follow  having  a  great  time  doing what  ever  it is  they’re  up to .

Yes ,  I  do really .

I can’t  wait  to  get  wicked  creative  with the  hashtags  that I  put on my posts.

You know  #lifeisshort ,  #girlsvsglobe ,  # lit , #sistersandsuitcases ,  and even #30PlusTeams30PlusDreams ,  so that people  will remember  the  name  of  my blog.

You get the  idea.

It’s  all about  having  fun and letting  the  world, and your followers  know  that you are REALLY  having  fun, even  if  you  aren’t .

What Instagram  should  NOT  be used for  is to shame  people ,  especially  young people  who for some reason  are made to feel  a certain  way if their  Instagram  photos  aren’t  ”  perfect” .

News  flash ,  everyone  isn’t  the  next big male or female runway model  out there, nor do  we all spend the whole day when we should be enjoying  that 30 Plus  Teams  Tour ,  trying to get that just right shot.

So what if we’re  not wearing  that perfect  outfit  and not a hair is out of place.

That’s  not gonna  happen  people.

Not to mention  that  oh so  hot looking  beach scene  or mountain  side shot that you  think you  should  have .

One that Instagram  says will get you  more likes.

Sorry ,  a lot of  us aren’t  model  size.

You’re  healthy ,  or as I like to  call  myself ,  ”  Fluffy . ” .

I’m  proud  of  that  fact and you should  be  too.

If you  look  at  most  of  my Instagram  posts, sometimes  I  wear a  wig, other times  I  just let my God  given  nappy hair that I’m  NOT ashamed  of, to  show .

I don’t  have  a  perfect  beach or mountain  side  shot, because  in spite  of  what  Instagram  tells  you, there really  isn’t  one.

As for my own  perfect outfit ?

Check out  my own  Instagram  photos  for yourself  to see all my “perfect outfits . ”

Be yourself ,  people  .

Your name isn’t  Kardashian ,  be real and have fun.

That’s  what Instagram  should  be  about, not shaming  people  if they don’t  have the prettiest  shot of the month, day, or year.

Facebook and  Twitter ,  good Lord, where do I    START  with the  two  of  you ? !

Everyone  seems  to  have  an opinion ,  right or wrong  of everyone  else  , saying nasty  things on line  that they wouldn’t  have the cajones  to  say to that same person  if they met them on the street  or in their  own homes  in some cases.

Yes, I’ve  seen  people  not speak to  friends that they’ve  known  for years or even family members  because  of  something  that  was posted on  Facebook .

To take it the extreme ,  some people  have even gotten hurt or worse because  of  something  that  was posted on  Facebook .

Really, people  it’s  not  THAT SERIOUS !

Facebook ,  I thought  you were started  as a  way to  get people  together ?

You know ,  connecting  people  with former  classmates ,  business  colleagues ,  and friends  who we lost  contact  with ?

I   didn’t  know  that  it was  a  place for calling  someone  out for liking a different  political  candidate  and having very strong  political  views that are different  than mine.

I  DEFINITELY  didn’t  think  that Facebook  was a place for someone  not liking  the  same sports  team that I like and telling  me  that  in no uncertain  terms not only  why they dislike  my team, but how every fan of my team  is every name in the book, except  the name they were born  with.

Again, I  say, stop the madness, people  !

Nor did I  ever  imagine  that Facebook  was the place for  someone  to  tell  me  that they are also  a  fan of the team that   I  like ,but how DARE I  say bad things about  them?!

Yes, basically  questioning  my fandom .

What happened  to  civility ,  even on line  ?

If you have  to   take  to social  media  to question  my fandom ,  political  views or the like, and do it in such a vile fashion ,  you really have too much  time  on  your  hands.

Decency  and respect  for  someone’s  opinion ,  especially  if  it’s  different  from  yours,  seems to  have  gone out window ,  along with  the  baby’s  bath water .

Everything  seems  to  be  allowed  to  be said  on Facebook ,  even if it should be   labeled   T . M.I. or too much  information .

If Facebook  wasn’t  nasty  enough, we have  Twitter .

It seems  to  be  worse.

The President  of  the  United  States  can even be considered  as a  “Twitter  Troll”.

Everyone  has decided  that it’s  now the rage  to insult  everyone  else  in 140 characters  or less.

It’s  not just  ordinary  Joe’s  and Mary’s  doing it, politicians ,  business men  and  women ,  athletes  calling out their own teammates  not to mention   their wives and  girlfriend’s  insulting  everyone  from fans to team’s  owners.

These people  should  all know better.

Other people  see this on Twitter  and they think that  gives  them, in the words  of  the  group  The Beastie  Boys, “License  to  Ill.”

No one seems  to  have anything  nice to  say on Twitter  about anything  or anyone .

No one seems to  have any inkling  of  what decency  should  be  online .

That makes me angry.